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Tuesday, March 11, 2014

The Good Wife

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While falling asleep, or maybe I should say attempting to fall asleep, my mind often wanders to Bible stories and how each "character" was affected. Last night was Abraham, Sarah, and Isaac. Nothing unusual coming across my mind, until I glanced at my son on the baby monitor and it hit me, an aspect that I had never thought of before.  

For those who may be a bit rusty on their Bible stories, allow me to get you up to speed. 

Gen. 21 Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the Lord did for Sarah what he had promised. Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him. Abraham gave the name Isaac[a] to the son Sarah bore him. When his son Isaac was eight days old, Abraham circumcised him, as God commanded him. Abraham was a hundred years old when his son Isaac was born to him. Sarah said, “God has brought me laughter, and everyone who hears about this will laugh with me.” And she added, “Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse children? Yet I have borne him a son in his old age.”

Sarah was 90 years old when Isaac was born. 


And I feel behind at 28 - yikes! 


Gen. 22 Some time later God tested Abraham. He said to him, “Abraham!”

“Here I am,” he replied. Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” Early the next morning Abraham got up and loaded his donkey. He took with him two of his servants and his son Isaac. When he had cut enough wood for the burnt offering, he set out for the place God had told him about. On the third day Abraham looked up and saw the place in the distance. He said to his servants, “Stay here with the donkey while I and the boy go over there. We will worship and then we will come back to you.

God was faithful and provided a ram for the sacrifice in place of Isaac.


Gen. 22  13 Abraham looked up and there in a thicket he saw a ram[a] caught by its horns. He went over and took the ram and sacrificed it as a burnt offering instead of his son.14 So Abraham called that place The Lord Will Provide. And to this day it is said, “On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided.”  15 The angel of the Lord called to Abraham from heaven a second time 16 and said, “I swear by myself, declares the Lord, that because you have done this and have not withheld your son, your only son, 17 I will surely bless you and make your descendantsas numerous as the stars in the sky and as the sand on the seashore. Your descendants will take possession of the cities of their enemies, 18 and through your offspring[b] all nations on earth will be blessed,[c] because you have obeyed me.” 


God is always faithful. Always. 




Now, onto the revelation that hit me last night. 


Nowhere does the Bible state that Abraham told anyone what the Lord had instructed him to do, he simply set out to obey. 


There is no way that Sarah knew what they were up to. As a mother I would fight those instructions with all of my being, yes, even instructions straight from the mouth of God. I would cry out to God to take me in his place. Anything but the life of my only child. Anything


Why does this matter? Isaac was not sacrificed in the end. What's my point? 


In today's day and age women fight for equality, and quite frankly, I believe we deserve it - on most levels. 


Sarah respected Abraham as her husband and head of their household. Sarah knew that Abraham was a man of God, that he walked with God, and talked with God. Sarah knew that God was faithful. 


Sarah knew her place. 


All too often we, as women, tend to step outside of our rightful place and want to call all the shots. 


Now, don't get your feminist undies all knotted up over this. I am a firm believer that major decisions should be made together. Marriage is 100/100, each of you has to give 100% to the other. When this is done, you will never be unhappy with the result. 


What would have happened had Sarah known what they set out to do? Personally, I would have been outraged. I was barren for 90 years, God finally gives me a son, then He says we need to sacrifice him?!? 


Uh, NO. 


Now, I'm not saying that I would have abandoned my faith in God and ran the other direction, but I sure would have put up a fight! 


Not for a moment do I believe that Abraham was happy about what God had instructed him to do. Abraham loved Isaac. Abraham loved Sarah and knew how deeply it would hurt her to return without their one and only child. I can only imagine the thoughts that could have been running through his head as they climbed the mountain. 


How can I do this? My son, my love, how can I harm you? How am I supposed to tell Sarah what I've done? This will ruin her. This will ruin us. Lord, give me strength, give Sarah strength, give us understanding.  


Abraham had the faith to continue up that mountain knowing that, no matter the outcome, God is faithful and has the best in store. A faith strengthened by his personal relationship with God. A relationship nurtured by time and sacrifice. Abraham knew God. Conversations didn't just skim the surface 


"Hey how's it going God? I'm good. Had roasted lamb for dinner. Sarah's a great cook. Isaac had a blow out the other night - boy, can that kid poop!.. We just celebrated Isaac's 17th birthday, can you believe he asked for his own camel? Kids these days."  


Water fountain babble. 


Abraham knew and trusted the word of God. Abraham knew His promises. Abraham knew God. 


Ladies, this is why letting our men be the head of the household is so important. Support your husbands. Pray for them. Allow them to have alone time when they request it so that they can spend some one on one time with the Father - this might be a good time for you to do the same.

Gentlemen, this is why it is so important to take your place as spiritual leader over your house. Spend time with God. Worship Him. Talk with Him. Cry out to Him. Know Him. He is faithful and you will see amazingly good things happen in your life when you do.  


Encourage one another to dig into scripture, to spend time soaking in His presence, to cast your cares upon the Lord. You will be better for the call of God on your life, better for each other, better for your children. 



The Woman Who Fears the Lord - Proverbs 31 ESV

10 [d] An excellent wife who can find?
    She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
    and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
    all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
    and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
    she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
    and provides food for her household
    and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
    with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself[e] with strength
    and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
    Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
    and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
    and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
    for all her household are clothed in scarlet.[f]
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
    her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
    when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
    she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
    and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
    and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
    but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
    and let her works praise her in the gates.

Hymn to a Good Wife - Proverbs 31 The Message 

10-31 A good woman is hard to find,
    and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
    and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
    all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
    and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
    and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
    for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
    then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
    rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
    is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
    diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
    reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
    their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
    and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
    when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
    brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
    and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
    and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
    and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
    her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
    but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
    The woman to be admired and praised
    is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
    Festoon her life with praises!

Wives and Husbands - Ephesians 5 ESV 

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. 


Relationships Eph 5 THE MESSAGE 

21 Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.
22-24 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.
25-28 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.
29-33 No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.






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